Hell Whaattt! !!
That’s the reaction I was greeted with as I planned a week’s vacation when my baby was 6 months. It wasn’t because he was too small but how could I think of planning a vacation without taking him along. Almost everyone around me had there eyes rolling for how insensitive “today’s moms” are.
I started feeling like the avatar of SATAN(the god of evil), who was may be going to abandon the kid in some unknown third world, just for the sake of my own pleasure. But then for once I tried to calculate what I had in mind…
1) My son is blessed to be born in a joint family of 20 adults who claim to love him to infinity (and most of them actually mean it.)
2) I did not breastfeed him.
3) He did not recognise me as his mom yet, to him my Mother In Law and me hold the same place.
4) I needed a little break and wanted to sleep for few days.
5) I think I also love him to that unexplainable level.
Well..!!! I went through above points a million times and realised, that there was not a single reason to cancel that vacation, ELSE than The Great Indian Society will have acceptance issues.
I then realised how this has been prevalent in our society, to kill that girl alive in every mom. my heart felt an ache in its each ventricle as WHY moms have to be 200 percent dedicated only to the kids and family…
After the kid, she still cooks, she still takes care of the family, she still attends every possible family function, wearing outfits that weigh half a quintal… Then why on earth all she has to stop is taking care of herself, making herself happy.
The generation before us did this, they killed their every possible dreams and desires for us and that’s why they are so over attached that there is a constant pressure on current generation to pay off what they did.
I don’t want to hold a grudge for my boy when he grows up and go to roam around the world without even asking me to come or I don’t want him to drown in that pressure for not keeping me happy enough.
There needs to be a balance, one can’t get obsessed with only one aspect of life.
I agree my babies are most prior to me BUT that doesn’t change the fact that I love myself as well. If I know they are in safe hands and will do great even without me then where am I wrong.
Why it has to be a defined line of behaviour for a woman.
She should leave her job…
She shouldn’t dine out with friends as the kids are home…
She should be available 24X7 without a single breathe of relief…
I am not that feminist who says we are equal to men and there shouldn’t be any discrimination because I know that difference can never be overcome BUT
I choose to Live
I choose to take care of myself
I choose to let my kids breathe outside my virtual womb…
I CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY…
n then I CHOSE to go on that vacation… 😀