Why won’t you tell…?!! – Freshly Baked Head

Whenever I sit alone.. I start getting the memory flashes of how we grew up together, how I learnt so much form her, how pretty she was and in such brutal circumstances she passed away. A Letter to her, for she could have talked…

“Hey U,

Where do I take this infliction in my heart,

Where do I go to find my shining Star…

These three years have moved at their pace, but my life stood still. Why you didn’t talk..?!. when your heart was engulfed with those harsh words, why you didn’t look around. I wasn’t away, we always loved you more than the world.

First day when you were told that you are not beautiful enough for their son, you should have told them to go and look for some mirrors..

The day you were told, you ain’t a cook that good, you should have stopped cooking.

The day you were told, your family is a disgrace, you should have called it a time-out.

The day you were told to kill every happy nerve in you…YOU SHOULD HAVE MOVED OUT..!!

I can’t forget those uncomfortable eyes across the Tea Fumes. Today, when I sit and realise what they were looking for, there is no use of extending hands. You are gone too far to come back and hold it.

I can’t forget that restless voice when you couldn’t find his T-shirt. That wasn’t a crime, why were you being punished? We couldn’t imagine those cuts on your hands, were deliberately made when a glass accidentally broke by you.
They were socially insecure for they couldn’t be as amazing as you were, for you were too good for them, for we loved you so much.They were just jealous of the people you’re closest to, also your dreams and goals because they wanted to control all aspects of your life. All you needed was reaching out to us just once, we were right there, beside you. Only we couldn’t realise when you went into that deep black hole alone. You shouldn’t have agreed upon being a prisoner in your own house.

I wish I knew it then, I would have reminded you of how good you were, I would have been with you, not for a minute, not for a day but for every second that followed. Their statement of we won’t support you was not true my heart. We are family, we are friends and we were bonded together.

Wherever you are today,

we still think of you,

we miss you.”

Emotional abuse, takes away many more lives. When we don’t see the bruises from outside, we tend to stay quite, its there personal matter. The emotional abuse usually gets enlarged as physical abuse as well.

Few People are born that way. They will hate you if you are beautiful or if you are not so beautiful, if you are successful or if you are not so successful. They will hate you if you are right or even if you are wrong. They will hate you if you are popular or also if your a back stage person. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. And they will do this while they post prayers and religious quotes on Facebook for you. All they know is how to hate and hurt.

P.S. : This blog is also a part of the Blogathon series #ALettertoher started by Women’s Web to create awareness on domestic abuse and asking for help is a good way to get out of it.

I would personally refer the book When I Hit You by Meena Kendasamy – At once the chronicle of an abusive marriage and a celebration of the invincible power of art, This book is a smart, fierce and courageous take on traditional wedlock in modern India.

Always talk and reach out for help if needed

Stay healthy

24 comments

motheropedia. June 30, 2017 at 5:27 pm

True. There are a few people who will always be against us….Interesting read.
1. Kanika Jain June 30, 2017 at 5:28 pm
  
  Thanks dear
Aesha June 30, 2017 at 5:37 pm

Need to be strong and fight against any kind of domestic violence. It’s an amazing initiative by women’s web.
1. Kanika Jain June 30, 2017 at 5:38 pm
  
  True Aesha.. sad part I people stay in it
Zainab June 30, 2017 at 7:10 pm

A very good read & well written!!!
And true, we will never be good enough for few people!
Jiya B July 1, 2017 at 4:30 am

I loved the way it gives a message. Indeed one must stray strong against violence.
Menaka Bharathi July 1, 2017 at 1:00 pm

Well read article…But still some bear domestic violence and stay for the sake of society

http://www.simpleindianmom.in/make-fussy-toddler-eat/
momtasticworld July 1, 2017 at 6:29 pm

Such a strong message and you have nailed it. Domestic violence is just not acceptable and No one should accept it.
1. Kanika Jain July 1, 2017 at 6:58 pm
  
  Thanks dear
TheMomSagas July 1, 2017 at 7:40 pm

What a wonderful read. It gives such a strong message. It’s difficult but not impossible to stand up for oneself.
Rattle Babble Battle-Indian Parenting Blog July 1, 2017 at 8:44 pm

This write up gave me goose bumps …and I still serials think that its the society that makes moving of the marriage difficult and suicide easier
Vasantha Vivek July 2, 2017 at 4:29 am

Well written post. It’s heart aching. Domestic violence is a worst gesture to be addressed more vigorously now
alpanadeo July 2, 2017 at 9:35 am

Such a strong post, so crisp and upto the mark. Very well done..
1. Kanika Jain July 2, 2017 at 9:35 am
  
  Thanks sweety
MerogAndMom July 2, 2017 at 9:36 am

That’s a wonderful read and you have written it so well!
1. Kanika Jain July 2, 2017 at 9:37 am
  
  Thanks dear
Minakshi Bajpai July 2, 2017 at 5:20 pm

Interesting read. There are very few posts where you read full content without support of any image and this post is one of them.
1. Kanika Jain July 2, 2017 at 5:38 pm
  
  Thanks dear
2. Kanika Jain July 2, 2017 at 5:38 pm
  
  Aww thanks meenakshi
Shalu Sharma Rathod July 2, 2017 at 5:57 pm

Somehow the female species is trained since childhood that if it’s not physical, its not abuse! Articles like these are really important to tell the world that even mental abuse is not acceptable. Thanks for writing this!
anubhutisethmehn July 3, 2017 at 5:08 am

It is so very important to raise our voice against such things happening around. Your articles echos like a support to the females who think this is what girls are born to bear.
Geethica July 3, 2017 at 11:52 am

Many learn the lesson when the time had gone. They are not brave enough to face the world with courage. Every word of your article is emotionally weaved
Mummasaurus July 3, 2017 at 5:11 pm

i loved your article Misha!! Love how you think 🙂
1. Kanika Jain July 3, 2017 at 5:14 pm
  
  Thanks honey.. means a lot